A Decade of Love

This a long overdue post. Approximately delayed by 2 years, 3 months and 15 days. I wasn’t really able to finish this but I’m posting it anyway now.

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Having spent 10 years (and counting!) with my ex-girlfriend, now wife, I didn’t just experience love. It’s just the sum of everything that we had but it’s much more than that. So below are the seven ten things of what I learned so far.

1. You don’t have to be right all the time – You don’t have to insist what is right (even if you are truly right) all the time if it will only have a negative effect towards your partner or just cause unreasonable fights. It is just not worth it at all. You don’t have anything to gain but you can lose so much by doing so.

2. Thoughtfulness doesn’t need to be reciprocated – The number one rule of thoughtful people is to not expect anything in return. They do things for their loved ones because of how special they are in their lives. It doesn’t make sense if one expects anything in return for making other people feel they’re special. Their existence is an enough reciprocation.

3. Keep a constant communication – Even with the vast number of communication medium, keeping a constant communication between partners is actually a challenge. The two people must really commit a time to communicate. It may be a hit and miss but never stop trying.

4. Forever is a daily choice – Nothing’s unlimited in this world except change and making choices. There’s nothing magical in a relationship that can stand the test of time and trials. It’s a daily choice. You either sink or swim with each opportunity, positive or not, that comes your way. And such choice is not easy. Sometimes you feel so tired working for it and sometimes you may feel like it’s not really worth it. The truth is everything about your relationship is really up to the two of you. There are no shortcuts, no magic. You can feel so blessed when you look back and see how much the two of you have been through.

5. Small things count – The small things you do for each other will go a long way through your married life. These are the few things that can truly have an impact, hence, these are often remembered the most. Don’t ignore or belittle the things that you do for your partner. It may be nothing for you but it could be very important for him/her. So when you do things for your partner, whether it’s requested or your own initiative, do it with love.

6. Differences add value  My wife and I have a couple of things in common. However, we have more differences than our fingers can count. And as each love textbook would say, couples just need to understand and accept each other’s differences. It is through this that the couple can complement one another where each of their weakness will be their source of strength.

7. Support system – Each of you goes through different predicaments at work, home or just about anywhere else you two are involved. To relieve each other’s miseries, you should, as much as possible, be always ready to listen to your partner’s rants or complains. You don’t need to give an advice unless he/she asks to. What really matters is that you’re able to lend your ears.

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Easter 2012 and Myles’ 5th Birthday

My last vacation was so fun that my mind is playing the memories in an almost infinite loop. I just can’t describe how happy I am so I’ll just have these pictures do it for me.

On Easter Sunday, we went to the beach.

Myles and Janie - Beach Lovers!

Janie loving the beach the most. At home, she would randomly say "Daddy ligo tayo beach."

Ate Mylyn(Sis-in-law), Ira, Kuya Melvin(Bro-in-law), Janie, Ian, Myles and Me.

We had an overnight stay in Davao to celebrate Myles Birthday. We went to Malagos Garden Resort, Philippine Eagle Center and People’s Park on the 1st day. The following day we went to SM, where we had our first family studio pic (pictures to follow) and the kids playing at Zoofari (their favorite playground).

At the hotel. Janie teaching me how to wear eyeglasses, the right way.

Then the goofy way.

Mr. and Mrs. Bacus

Guinea pig watch

Horse watch. The horse was camera shy. Hehe.

Butterflies at the Butterfly Sanctuary

Melay and the kids.

Me and the kids at the swing

Looking at the revered Philippine Eagle named Pag-Asa

Looking at the rest of the birds.

The noisiest bird in the center.

Philippine Deer

Not sure if these monkeys are the food for the Philippine Eagles (previously called Philippine Monkey-Eating Eagles)

They're finally not scared of taking pictures with these statues.

Myles smiling. 2 years ago he wouldn't even dare go near these things. Now he climbs on them. Hehe.

Janie: Let's go!

Kids would really find these statues scary at first.

Myles blowing his first cake of the day. Janie tried to blow as well. Hehe.

At Zoofari.

Still swinging

Excited

I’m so excited to go home that I already want to pack my things up, but I can’t because 1) My clothes would get too wrinkled by the time I get home; 2) I still have some clothes from the laundry shop that I’ll be bringing. I think the reason why I’m so excited is because I can talk more sensible things to my kids than before.

And another reason is that for my first day there, I’ll be watching over them alone. My wife will be going out with her dormmates and my mom will be staying in Davao for a week. It’s the first time for me to be alone with them and I’m looking forward to a lot of things that we’ll be doing. This includes, but not limited to, playing the lego blocks, clay, drawing, coloring and then the puzzles. I can’t wait to see Jan2x play the 49-piece puzzle that Chubbs gave (thanks Chubbs!). If she can solve it, I’ll probably buy her a 100-piece puzzle during the year. Then who knows by the age of 7 or 8 she can already solve a 1000-piece one. Lol.

I went to divisoria today to buy for some clothes for my wife and kids. I just hope everything I bought would fit them. Especially those for Myles because he has a big head. We often have a hard time when he changes his clothes.

101 Memories and 1st SL in 3 Years

I was able to reach some 40 memories, but I let the pictures do the rest of the talking. =)

On another story, something unusual happened today. My wife greeted me at 5am and I replied greeting her the same. And I don’t know what came to my mind that I also told her that I didn’t sleep yet. Then she told me to take an SL or else I shouldn’t text anymore for the entire week. Lol. So there, SL taken even if I wasn’t that sick. Hehe.

The Impossible

I thought it’s achievable, but now I don’t think I would be able to reach my target (101 in units). I was insane to think that I can do it.

What now… 😦

I guess I just need to keep writing. I’ve already reached 20. 81 more to go. Good luck Mr. Feeling-Like-You-Can-Remember-That-Many. Lol.

Memorable Conversations of 2011 Christmas Vacation

Here are some memorable conversations during my 2011 Christmas vacation.

While I was teaching Myles on how to write his name.
Me: Dili ingon ana (Hindi ganyan). Ingon ani (Ganito). (It’s not like that. It should be this way)
Myles: Taasa oi (Ang haba naman). (It’s so long). (I wonder who’s to blame =p).

While I was eating chocolate then Jani sit on my lap.
Jani: Unsa imo eat Daddy? (What are you eating Daddy?)
Me: Pan (tinapay). (Bread)
Jani came closer smelling my lips.
Jani: Di man na pan (Hindi yan tinapay). Chocolate man ang smell (amoy chocolate). (The smell is chocolate)
(Oooops. Hahaha!)

Myles playing Need for Speed on my laptop.
Myles: Daddy guba na ang car, lahi na pud. (Daddy the car’s damaged. I want a different one).  (LOL!)

Me and my wife.
Me: ‘Di ba sabi mo sa akin noon sabihan kita kapag nag-cheat ako? (Remember that you told me that if I ever cheat I will tell you about it?)
Melay: Oo. (Yes)
Me: Well… (made a 3-second pause) Wala. (None!)
(She slapped my arms so hard it felt like I was punched with a dumbbell. Hehe. She said she almost had a heart attack.)

I…

This is the poem I wrote back in September for our Anniversary today (Dec. 22).

I…
by Ryozen

I long
For thy gentle hands
The soft caress into mine
Forever our fingers intertwine

I thirst
For thy sweet lips
Kissing them so delicately
Engulfing me with ecstasy

I seek
For thy lovely face
Enlightens my long day
Brighter than the sun of May

I desire
For thy heavenly embrace
Soothing like the clouds
All sadness it shrouds

I admire
Thy brilliant mind
Sharp like a knife
A treasure for life

I dream
To see the world with you
Mesmerize on the scenes
Enjoying the cuisines

I hunger
For the food you cook
No ironman chef can beat
Anything you cook I’ll eat

I aspire
To be the greatest dad
Our kids can ever have
One they’ll be proud to have

I want
To be the greatest husband
You can ever have
You’ll be proud to have

I wish
To make you happy
Give everything you want and need
If I can’t I won’t succeed