This a long overdue post. Approximately delayed by 2 years, 3 months and 15 days. I wasn’t really able to finish this but I’m posting it anyway now.
Having spent 10 years (and counting!) with my ex-girlfriend, now wife, I didn’t just experience love. It’s just the sum of everything that we had but it’s much more than that. So below are the seven
ten things of what I learned so far.
1. You don’t have to be right all the time – You don’t have to insist what is right (even if you are truly right) all the time if it will only have a negative effect towards your partner or just cause unreasonable fights. It is just not worth it at all. You don’t have anything to gain but you can lose so much by doing so.
2. Thoughtfulness doesn’t need to be reciprocated – The number one rule of thoughtful people is to not expect anything in return. They do things for their loved ones because of how special they are in their lives. It doesn’t make sense if one expects anything in return for making other people feel they’re special. Their existence is an enough reciprocation.
3. Keep a constant communication – Even with the vast number of communication medium, keeping a constant communication between partners is actually a challenge. The two people must really commit a time to communicate. It may be a hit and miss but never stop trying.
4. Forever is a daily choice – Nothing’s unlimited in this world except change and making choices. There’s nothing magical in a relationship that can stand the test of time and trials. It’s a daily choice. You either sink or swim with each opportunity, positive or not, that comes your way. And such choice is not easy. Sometimes you feel so tired working for it and sometimes you may feel like it’s not really worth it. The truth is everything about your relationship is really up to the two of you. There are no shortcuts, no magic. You can feel so blessed when you look back and see how much the two of you have been through.
5. Small things count – The small things you do for each other will go a long way through your married life. These are the few things that can truly have an impact, hence, these are often remembered the most. Don’t ignore or belittle the things that you do for your partner. It may be nothing for you but it could be very important for him/her. So when you do things for your partner, whether it’s requested or your own initiative, do it with love.
6. Differences add value – My wife and I have a couple of things in common. However, we have more differences than our fingers can count. And as each love textbook would say, couples just need to understand and accept each other’s differences. It is through this that the couple can complement one another where each of their weakness will be their source of strength.
7. Support system – Each of you goes through different predicaments at work, home or just about anywhere else you two are involved. To relieve each other’s miseries, you should, as much as possible, be always ready to listen to your partner’s rants or complains. You don’t need to give an advice unless he/she asks to. What really matters is that you’re able to lend your ears.