joannie melle, Myles, Parenthood

To Be A Father

My goal for 2012 is to be a true father. I don’t really know how to be like one but I’m pretty sure I’m not one just yet. I need to be 10x more patient especially with my son. I don’t want him to grow with fear of me, but it’s pretty hard to teach a child the difference between right and wrong effectively without being too strict or raising a hand. Initiative vs. Guilt stage of a child’s development is not something to be taken for granted because this stage will truly affect the future growth of a child. If I can be more forgiving of other people’s faults, I should be more forgiving of my son’s but I find this part hard because the ideal part of me wants my kid to grow up really good, to understand that one thing is not right from the other. I often forget the part that it’s not the end-result that is important for now but the child’s learning experience because this is what shapes a child’s mind. A child must understand the wrong without fear. He must feel alright even though he did something wrong and that he knows he can still be good the next time around. Indeed, these things are hard for me but I must work hard to be a good father.

On a side note, it’s kinda cute when my daughter would butt in when I scold her brother by saying “ayaw away tuya myles” (she can’t pronounce the ‘k’ sound yet).

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Joannie Melle: How The Name Came To Be

I was fond of combining names of couples back in college and high school. When I finally had my girl friend, I then took the chance of combining our names a year after we were together. I first started with Jonie but it doesn’t sound so good. And then I saw this taxi whose franchise name is Jonie and my mind had this idea of inserting letter ‘a’ in the name, hence Joanie. But because I want it to be unique I doubled letter ‘n’. Since I want the ‘melle’ part of my name to belong to the rightful gender, I put it after Joannie and thus came the name of our future daughter (who is now turning 3 years old next month). =)

I also formed another name which my wife also liked, it’s Jemellaine Mai. That’s one heck of a brute force name mixing of our names if you look closely at it. Hehe.